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The Sunday List, The Reset Button

I know you’ve been here before.  You’re on your phone, looking up something unimportant, when it freezes.  You hit the home button, close the app, open the app, and search again.

Again, it freezes.

Suddenly, that unimportant info you were looking for is life and death, and you’ll be damned if a phone is going to stop you.

You follow steps 1-4 again.  Nothing.

What do you do?  What should you have done after the first time?  Reset your phone.  Power off, then on.  Close all the other apps.  Give your phone a chance to freaking breathe.

In case you haven’t figured out, I’m not talking about a phone anymore.  I’m talking about my life.

And I need to find the reset button, fast.

I noticed somewhere around Monday afternoon, that things were getting a little out of balance for me when I couldn’t find chocolate in the house where I work.   No baking chocolate.  No chocolate candy.  No chocolate ice cream.  Not even a single can of Coke (which is always my last resort).  And I almost broke down right there in the kitchen.

I work 5 days  a week.  Since April I’ve been trying to get this blog off the ground.  And last week, I thought it’d be a great time to revive my self publishing goals by entering a contest, which I ended up winning in round one (ah-MAZE-ing), so that also means I have a LOT more writing to do.

Who does this?

Meanwhile, I’m eating sugar like it’s the base of the food pyramid, not working out (but really, really wanting to), and finding resentment in the smallest of things.  See above paragraph re: chocolate.

I know I’m completely out of whack.  I know this is me and has nothing to do with the job, the heat, or even the chocolate.  I know that trying to be super woman/nanny is a very twisty, long road that leads to drinking excessive amounts of wine.

I know this.

So this entire weekend has been about hitting the reset button.  Finding ways to make peace with the life I have chosen (and really do love), and gaining some balance.   While I wait for the edits to come back, I have chosen this weekend to be a little selfish… after all, I do have the time right now.

Here are some ways you too can hit the reset button:

  1. Morning planning session.  I know this sounds like another way to add more to your list, but I promise it’s not.  This is all about priorities and choosing what matters most.  For instance, after looking at the next month, I know working out probably isn’t going to happen.  I need to let it go.  However, eating carbs and sugar every day, ALL DAY, isn’t going to work either.  Finding healthier alternatives is going to be key for me to stay sane.  I am a much better person when I get sleep and eat real food… the battle is just getting off the sugar.  That’s a whole other blog post though.
  2. Focusing on one thing.  I literally wrote an entire page on focus this morning, and how I don’t have it.  By the end of the page though, I had some ideas of how I can help myself.   Staying centered and focused on one thing at a time is my biggest goal.  Not thinking about what groceries I need, while I write this post, for instance.  That’s a no-no.  I also know that my job has probably caused this dissection of focus, but it’s time to reel it back in when needed.  This is going to be a work in progress, but probably the most important one for me.
  3. Letting some things go.  I have this annoying habit of trying to be everything to everyone.  Annoying for me that is.  I don’t know when I started the hustle for approval, but I think it was back in high school.  That’s a lot of hustling.  It’s time for me to take a step back and manage my time, money, and energy towards what brings me joy.  This is something everyone reading should do as well.
  4. Be grateful.  When you find yourself needing a reset button, gratitude is not likely on your radar.  It’s the one thing that can change your mindset in a matter of minutes.  A simple list at the end of the day.  A whispered “thank you” when that parking spot opens up in the rain.  A hug for someone who thought of you.  This doesn’t have to be a huge deal, just a simple perspective change.  It will change everything if you practice daily.

Obviously, there are a million ways YOU can reset how you’re feeling.  This list is personal… my list, and it is helping me plan for another crazy week.  I’m also incorporating morning an evening check-ins with my planner, just to stay on track.  I know that’s not for everyone, but it is something that keeps my mind calm.

This post isn’t about me or my list.  They are just suggestions.  What I want you to do is create your own list.  What calms you down?  What makes you ready to face another day?  What makes you smile?  Hint… if you answered chocolate, you better get making a list.

I hope you have an awesome week.  I know I’m ready for mine now…

Happy reading,

xo, Mo

 

what I know for sure

Is there anything better than a birthday?  I used to hate my birthday… didn’t want the attention, the hassle, or people going out of their way for me.  I never wanted to put anyone out for lil’ ole me.

But that’s changed.  Birthdays?  Bring them on.  The happier the better in my book, and this year’s didn’t disappoint.

I also use birthdays at a reset during the year for me.  Kind of a new year in the middle of the year.  A new year for me!

So, last week, I did a lot of thinking about how I want the next year, my 48th year, to look like.  In doing so, I also started to think about what I already know and have learned so far.

This is the list I’ve come up with…

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I know gratitude changes everything.

I know loving someone isn’t always easy.

I know that things aren’t supposed to make you happy, but sometimes they do.

I know I haven’t even begun to know what I’m capable of.

I know my body doesn’t respond well to sugar.

I know I can’t live without coffee, wine, or the occasional diet coke from McDonalds.

I know writing makes me calm.

I know that my mind has many voices, and many of them are unkind.

I know I have a Target addiction.

I know I miss my mom more than anything and would be a different person if she were still alive today.

I know books make my life better.

I know being a mom is the best thing I’ve ever done.  Being a nanny is the second best thing.

I know I was put on this planet to take care of other people.

I know that I will never be happy with my weight, but I can learn to accept it.  Still a work in progress.

I know life is too short, and we are not here to worry about our appearance or what others think.

I know I worry about money too much.

I know a shot of Fireball can change an entire day… or night.

I know things like photography, knitting, and yoga are things that will make my life better.

I know you will usually get what you focus on.

I know genuine kindness changes everything.  Friendships.  Marriages.  Families.  Work.  It’s all better when you approach with kindness.

I know my dad is a really great man.

I know Alzheimers is a horrible thing for a family.

I know I could go on and on and on….

The truth is, we all know so much about our own lives, and each list is different, unique, and amazing.  I believe it’s a great way to see your life differently and appreciate what you know.

Take some time this week, give yourself 20 minutes to sit down and write a list of what you know.  It can be silly or serious.  What makes you tick, and more importantly, what are the things you’re grateful for knowing?

I hope you all have a great week.  Comment to let me know what you know for sure…

 

Life From Scratch

I learned the lesson a long time ago that food was love.  If I could draw for you a big, loopy heart and type the word food smack dab in the middle of it, you’d get how I feel.

Food = Love

Food is a friend.  Food makes the good times great, and the bad times suck just a little less.  Pretty sure this feeling is hereditary and passed down from family to family, with the exception of those crazy families who consider food fuel for the body.  A method to keep your metabolism cranking and calories burning.

That’s adorable.

Or maddening… you choose.Unknown

When a book has the ability to capture food, love, and friendship in such a way, and oh, make the main character grow and change that is both cringe-worthy and admirable at the same time?  Well, that’s just magic.

I introduce to you Life from Scratch, by Melissa Ford.

I am pretty sure I heard about this from Modern Mrs. Darcy for a Kindle Deal… last year, and quickly downloaded it.  I never got around to reading it before this past weekend, and once I started, I couldn’t put it down.

I l-o-v-e any book with a major transformation in the main character.  It just always gives me hope for what could be if I took chances more.  Plus, throw in some food, blogging, and a sexy Spaniard and I was hooked.

If you have a chance to add this to your summer reading list, please do so.  If you’re in the mood for a funny, quirky, love story that will make you want to cook a fried egg, then this is for you.

Up next:  In Twenty Years, by Allison Winn Scotch

Happy Reading!